Day of L O V E; Romantic or not.

As I'm sat writing this, it's the morning of #ValentinesDay. For the second year running, I'm single but I can honestly say it doesn't matter

Valentines Day seems to split people 1 of 3 ways - they either absolutely love it and go all out, they hate it and take joy in bashing those who love it, or they just completely ignore it. I'd say I'm definitely in the first category. I love it and everything it represents.

I love the romance; the surprise presents/trips when you're not expecting them; the simple bunch of flowers and kiss on the cheek; the competitions to find the cheesiest cards; getting dressed up and going for dinner/bowling/cinema/whatever date you choose with your other half or your friends; the cosy nights in with a takeaway and movies; the self-date for coffee and a bit of shopping; the love notes to your best friend to make sure they know that you're thinking of them. All of it is beautiful, no matter how you choose to celebrate.

I've been on both sides of the spectrum - in a long-term relationship where we spent time together and bought the cheesy little gifts and cards, as well as being single and just spreading the love around to myself, my friends and family. 

Last year was my first year on my own in a long time, so I was all about the self-love and I think that is so important, newly single or not. When you've been in a relationship with someone for no matter how long, it can be strange to learn to be on your own again. It can be unnerving to have Valentines come along and showcase how everyone else is crazily in love and you aren't quite there. 

I know that I can often feel sad and lust after a relationship but the truth of it is, I'm okay with being on my own. I'm learning to be myself  and love myself again (without feeling like I'm missing something, aka the "other half"). I've learnt who I am in terms of my own interests, the hobbies I enjoy, the causes I want to work towards. I've learnt how much of a sensitive, emotional person I am and that I'm not afraid to embrace it. 

Being single isn't a curse or anything to feel guilty for, because it's simply time for you to really focus on yourself and grow as a person.

With that said, we aren't all single! Everyone is different in how we feel around this time of year, but that shouldn't stop you from making the most of just enjoying the Day of Love - no matter what your relationship status is.

Valentines Day doesn't necessarily have to be romantic. It's just a day to showcase your love. 
Whether that's for yourself, your partner, your parents, your friends - or even your pets!

Send cards to your closest friends and tell them how much you appreciate them, text your parents and tell them that you love them, spend an hour snuggling with your dog/cat (or snake, if you'd prefer!). Embrace the love that's all around at this time of year and revel in the fact that you also have people that care for you dearly, boyfriend/girlfriend or not.

You are amazing, you are special, you are loved for just being you.
Happy Valentines Day, my wilde souls.

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